Hey Reader,
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Let’s be real… most people who struggle in dating aren’t struggling because they don’t care enough.

They’re struggling because they care too much.

They analyze every text.

Overthink every pause.

Rehearse every conversation before it even happens.

If that sounds familiar, I want you to know this:

You’re not “too much.”

You’re just trying too hard.

And I don’t mean that in a judgmental way.

I mean you’re trying too hard to control something that’s meant to flow.

Connection. Chemistry. Timing. The natural back-and-forth of two humans figuring each other out.

Here’s what that “trying too hard” often looks like:

➡️ People-pleasing. Constantly managing how you’re perceived. Avoiding truth to keep the peace.

➡️ Perfectionism. Overanalyzing every move, every message, every flaw and trying to get dating “right.”

➡️ Pessimism. Expecting the worst so you won’t be disappointed again.

Each of these is a form of overthinking.

And every form of overthinking is a subtle way of saying:

“I don’t trust that I’ll be okay if this doesn’t go how I want it to.”

But love doesn’t come from control.

It comes from clarity, presence, and self-trust.

When you try to manage every outcome, you block both connection and clarity.

You can’t see red flags clearly.

You can’t experience real chemistry.

You can’t relax enough to actually be yourself.

And that’s what keeps dating feeling like a full-time job instead of an authentic connection.
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💭 If this sounds like you, it’s time to Try Less.

In my mini course, “Try Less: 15 Ways Overthinking is Ruining Your Love Life (and What To Do About It),” I teach you how to:
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• Stop overthinking and relax into connection
• Recognize when “trying” turns into self-sabotage
• Build confidence and ease in dating again
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​✨ Check it out here — it’s the price of dinner, and it’s going to change how you thinking about dating and early relationships forever.
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When you stop trying so hard, something beautiful happens.

You stop performing.

You stop chasing.

You stop over-explaining.

And you actually start connecting.

So if you’re ready to finally experience dating that feels light, fun, and real, start with Try Less.

You’ll be amazed at how quickly things shift when you do.

​💕 Start the Try Less mini course today​

With love (and less effort),

Imani

Founder, Same New Love

P.S. If this email hit home for you, hit reply and tell me which “overthinking habit” you relate to most: people-pleasing, perfectionism, or pessimism. I love hearing your stories, and your reply might inspire the next post 💜