I help women rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
I have no idea what I’m doing.
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Hey Reader, Fourteen years ago, I walked into a dorm room and accidentally learned a lesson I didn’t know I needed yet. I had no idea what I was doing in dating. Fast-forward a few years, a futon, a hard “no,” a lost shoe (long story), and a relationship that grew despite any form of certainty. Here’s what I’ve learned, and what I still believe deeply: Love doesn’t thrive on having it all figured out. You don’t really know the person across from you. But that's okay. When you stop pretending you know what you’re doing, you give yourself space to ask better questions. I wrote a longer reflection about this - about dating, curiosity, and why “not knowing” might be the healthiest place to start. If you want to read it, it’s here: No instructions. Love, |
Same New Love | Dating & Relationships
I help women rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
Hey Reader, What do you want? Someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And then what do you do? Act nothing like yourself. And then what do you get? Someone who thinks they know you. And then how do you feel? Not great, because they don’t actually know you. And then what do you do? Usually, end the relationship. And then who do you blame? Maybe them, maybe yourself. And then what do you do next?… If this cycle sounds familiar, you’re probably stuck in people-pleasing mode: the sneaky...
Let’s be honest... cause a lot of women are feeling it right now... many men suck.(Not all, but enough to make dating feel like trying to find Wi-Fi in the desert.) Between half-hearted effort, emotional unavailability, and situationships that go nowhere, it’s easy to lose faith in the whole process. But if you do want to keep dating (and, better yet, stop feeling defeated by it), there’s one little thing you can do that’ll save you a ton of emotional energy: 👉 Choose and commit to one of...
Hey Reader, Let’s be real… most people who struggle in dating aren’t struggling because they don’t care enough. They’re struggling because they care too much. They analyze every text. Overthink every pause. Rehearse every conversation before it even happens. If that sounds familiar, I want you to know this: You’re not “too much.” You’re just trying too hard. And I don’t mean that in a judgmental way. I mean you’re trying too hard to control something that’s meant to flow. Connection....