I help women rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
This one's for the "people pleasers"...
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Hey Reader, What do you want? Someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And then what do you do? Act nothing like yourself. And then what do you get? Someone who thinks they know you. And then how do you feel? Not great, because they don’t actually know you. And then what do you do? Usually, end the relationship. And then who do you blame? Maybe them, maybe yourself. And then what do you do next?… If this cycle sounds familiar, you’re probably stuck in people-pleasing mode: the sneaky pattern where you shape-shift to be chosen instead of showing up as yourself. You think it’ll help you connect, but it actually disconnects you from yourself and the other person. People-pleasing is often associated with kindness, but there’s a significant difference. Instead of being based on a genuine desire to spread goodness, it’s based on fear: fear of being rejected, disliked, or abandoned. But here’s the thing: the love you want can’t exist without honesty, and honesty can’t exist if you’re constantly editing yourself for approval. So, let’s look at the internalized rules that keep you there… and the 21 questions that’ll help you challenge them. Read the full blog post here: Challenging People-Pleasing Beliefs in Dating: 21 Questions - Same New Love With love, Imani |
Same New Love | Dating & Relationships
I help women rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.
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