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Same New Love | Dating & Relationships

4 Dating Rules You Might Want to Rethink

Published 5 months ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

If dating feels like a never-ending performance, I get it.

There are so many rules floating around what to wear, how to act, what to say, when to text, how to “be chill” but also interesting, confident but not too much, you should feel this way or that way immediately or it's useless, be feminine but independent… It’s exhausting.

And honestly? Most of these rules aren’t helping you find real love. They’re helping you stay in your head, shrink yourself, chase someone who isn’t even right for you, or judge someone who could be a great match.

So I wrote a blog post for you:
​→ 4 Dating Rules to Rethink Before the First Date​
​Read the blog post here ➝​

In it, I break down:

  • Why trying to be “likable” is ruining your dates
  • What the spark really means (and why it’s overrated)
  • How “your type” might be keeping you from your person
  • and more

Whether you’re actively dating or just easing back in, this is your reminder:
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You don’t need to perform. You don’t need to impress. You don’t need to “get it right.”
You just need to show up real, curious, and open.

And if this blog hits home, I’ve got something even better for you:
👉 Download the full guide: The Reset: 12 Rules to Reconsider Before the First Date​
​It’s super easy to read, click through, and actually use. Shift out of the pressure and into alignment.

With love (and a little rule-breaking),
​Imani​
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Same New Love | Dating & Relationships

by Imani Ifedi

I help women rewrite "approval-based rules" to make aligned choices for self-confident love lives. Check out my website below and sign up for my newsletter for impactful insights.

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